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Many Layers, And S.D. Connections To Male Circumcision Debate

ebrown: As Hugh7 said, you must forgive yourself. The only reason my twin boys are intact is because my husband is intact. It's just something I never really thought about. As a child I was horrified at the sight of my baby brother's mutilated penis. Still, I did not question it. My sister was terribly remorseful when she heard her son scream from down the hall when he was circumcised. Still, I did not question it. Until I met my husband, I didn't really understand what it meant to not be circumcised. Even then, I didn't think about it! The decision for my boys was made by husband. I don't have a penis, and I just didn't think about it. On the several occasions that I was pressured by nurses in the NICU to have my boys circumcised, I simply told them that my husband was not circumcised and they dropped the issue. Let me tell you, I would give those nurses and earful now!

Anyway, I could very well be in your position. At least, I hope I would be brave enough to be in your position. Brave enough face my mistake and feel that pain, rather than bury my motherly instincts, refuse to question the system, and perpetuate a practice that needs to stop. I think the main reason why it's so difficult to get people to question circumcision (especially in the Midwest, where I'm from) is that parents don't want to even consider that they may have made such a mistake.

February 4, 2010 at 10:11 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

Many Layers, And S.D. Connections To Male Circumcision Debate

If there is a fair comparison to circumcision, I would say it is the tonsillectomy: a procedure that has been touted by surgeons as inconsequential and beneficial, but the more parents understand, the less they put their children through surgery unless it is truly needed.

January 25, 2010 at 1:53 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

Many Layers, And S.D. Connections To Male Circumcision Debate

1) Problems with foreskins are rare, and the possibility of a problem is not a valid reason to circumcise an infant.

2) Regarding Dr. Bidair's argument that penile cancer is almost nonexistent in uncircumcised men; would he argue that we should cut off healthy breasts to prevent breast cancer?

3) Regarding the assertion that circumcising infants is easier and less harmful; how can you make that assertion when the person who is experiencing the procedure can't tell you how he feels? Just because he won't remember it doesn't mean it doesn't harm him psychologically. His first experience of his genitals is pain and discomfort! If we know nothing else about infants in this day and age, certainly we know that experiences they don't remember have an impact on who they are.

4) No parent should be allowed to sign off on a circumcision until they are given a comprehensive understanding on the anatomy and functions of the tissues they are removing AND they witness a circumcision. And then they must PERSONALLY strap the wrists and ankles of their son down and WATCH the procedure.

5) People argue that intactivists are genital obsessed. I argue that they are fighting the last remnants in our culture of religious genital obsession that seeks to control the evils of human sexuality through the genital mutilation of children before they ever have a chance to experience, and be contaminated by, their own sexuality.

January 25, 2010 at 1:33 p.m. ( | suggest removal )