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Our Gay President?

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March 8, 2012 at 4:54 a.m. ( | suggest removal )

Our Gay President?

I still don't see how someone would know for sure whether Abraham LIncoln had a homosexual relationship. Why isn't your interviewee's response more like, "perhaps he had homosexual sex, but conventions of the time suggest it was just a friendship"? The person interviewed said that because of conventions of the time, women often had only company with other women and that encouraged unusually intimate friendships among them. Well the same scenario in other instances, such as in prison, has led to women who weren't previously homosexual developing intimate relationships that were homosexual.
Convention doesn't change the fact that we are sexual beings and being so instintively sexual would influence who we choose to sleep next to at night. The fact that friends took the place of spouses in bed in Abraham Lincoln's time suggests that spouses were not as desirable as spouses ideally should be. And that's probably still true today, partly because we don't take human sexuality (or many other human emotions and instincts) seriously.
In 2011, I don't believe that we try to sexualize things too much. We don't even seem to respect sex as a basic (and innocent) human need. I think we do the opposite, still today treat each other as non-sexual beings to the extent that we have to encourage spouses to mainain romance and sex in marriages.
We respect marriage more than individual human value, probably just as we did then. Americans' obsession with marriage (and skin color) then and now reflects a misplaced search for value in material, man-appropriated things rather than his pure, natural self.

November 25, 2011 at 12:48 p.m. ( | suggest removal )