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Stay-At-Home Dads On The Rise, And Many Of Them Are Poor

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The number of dads in the U.S. staying at home with their children has nearly doubled since 1989.


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The number of dads staying at home with their children has nearly doubled in the past two decades, and the diversity among them defies the stereotype of the highly educated young father who stays home to let his wife focus on her career.

A new study from the Pew Research Center finds that almost 2 million dads are at home, up from 1.1 million in 1989. Nearly half of those men live in poverty.

"The largest share of stay-at-home dads are actually home because they're ill or disabled," says Gretchen Livingston, a senior researcher at Pew. "So that could be contributing to their low income, obviously."

Another chunk of men say they're at home because they can't find a job.

"About 22 percent don't have a high school diploma," says Livingston, "and 36 percent have just a high school diploma but no college experience."

Still, the fastest-growing group among stay-at-home fathers is men who say they are home specifically to provide child care. Five percent said that in 1989, and 21 percent say it today.

Just half of stay-at-home fathers are white, and black dads are twice as likely as white men to be home with their children.

Mark Portis, who lives near St. Louis, is African-American and dropped out of high school in his junior year (he later got his GED). He has two young children with his wife, but he also has three older daughters he never lived with, he says. He never married their mothers.

When he finally did marry, he says he wanted things to be different.

"I've been a stay-at-home dad for ... six years," he says at his home in St. Louis. His 6-year-old son is at camp, and his 3-year-old daughter is being fussy about lunch. "She wants candy," he laughs.

Portis used to be a manager in auto parts shops, but his wife earned a lot more as an accountant. When they decided someone should stay home with the children, he says it made sense that it was him.

"I love it," he says. "It's fun. I can be 110 percent involved in the kids and what they have going on."

Portis says his support group of full-time dads is almost all white. But it doesn't surprise him that many stay-at-home dads are black, like himself.

"[For] a lot of African-Americans, that's how they were raised," he says. "Everybody has to work, everybody has to contribute. If you can't afford child care, one works nights, one works days and you're just kind of passing the kids back and forth."

"We have a longstanding tradition in African-American families of fathers doing a lot with their kids," says Scott Coltrane, the provost at the University of Oregon, who has studied fathers for three decades. Coltrane says black dads who live with their kids have always helped out more at home. And in today's labor market, they're also more likely to be out of a job.

"What's different is culturally now, most parents do a little bit of both," he says. "We expect women to work. We expect men to do more at home."

That, he says, is the biggest shift in the last few decades, and it's true for everyone, regardless of race.

Two million stay-at-home dads is a much bigger number than the Census Bureau's number of 214,000. But the bureau's definition is extremely narrow, including only primarily married men who say they are home for the entire year specifically to care for family.

By contrast, Pew's latest report counts all dads, married or not, who live with a young child and did not work at all in the past year.

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muckapoo1 | June 5, 2014 at 7:52 p.m. ― 2 years, 9 months ago

Most of them are children themselves. They want to stay home and play video games. Too lazy to bring home the bacon.

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rnlightle | June 6, 2014 at 12:52 a.m. ― 2 years, 9 months ago

Really? What amazing insight you must have to be able to assess the entire nation like that. I have been unemployed now for 15 months now but I bet I have been in the workforce fairly close to how long you have been alive (28 years). I have two separate career paths that I am being forced out of, one because the industry uses antiquated machinery and as an artisan industry it is incredibly expensive, and the other due to not having enough education in the field which I just can't afford to do anything about at this time. So unless you can back your bullcrap up maybe you should shut up and do some reading on what is actually happening in this job market and economy so you don't look like a jerk.

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muckapoo1 | June 6, 2014 at 10:20 a.m. ― 2 years, 9 months ago

rn, practice this >>> "Would you like the large fries with that?" Now go to work.

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DeLaRick | June 6, 2014 at 11:52 a.m. ― 2 years, 9 months ago


Good luck with your job search. Don't give up.

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