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9-Year-Old Boy Remains Hospitalized Following Paradise Hills Murder-Suicide

San Diego police at the scene of a murder-suicide where two adults and three ...

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Above: San Diego police at the scene of a murder-suicide where two adults and three children were found dead inside a home on the 2100 block of Flintridge Drive in Paradise Hills on Nov. 16, 2019.

A man who killed his estranged wife and three of his four children in Paradise Hills before turning the gun on himself sent his former romantic partner a picture of a handgun with the message "It's sure happening" about two weeks before the shooting rampage, according to court documents obtained Monday.

In the days leading up to Saturday morning's shooting, Jose Valdivia, 31, repeatedly called and texted Sabrina Rosario, 29, who secured a restraining order against him just one day before she and four of her sons were shot at their home at 2152 Flintridge Drive.

Rosario was killed along with Enzi Valdivia, 3; Zuriel Valdivia, 5; and Zeth Valdivia, 11.

A fourth boy, 9-year-old Ezekiel Valdivia, underwent emergency surgery Saturday and remains hospitalized in critical condition.

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Court documents obtained by City News Service show the couple was in the midst of a divorce.

Rosario stated in her petition for a restraining order that since she filed for divorce in July, Valdivia "has consistently harassed and threatened me over the phone and does not leave me alone after I have repeatedly asked him to."

She wrote that he often showed up to her home unannounced and waited outside the house in his car. Sometime in July, she called police after he broke into her home and took his tools.

After she initially threatened to get a restraining order, he told her, "A restraining order is not going to do nothing," according to court documents.

On Nov. 6, court documents state he sent her "a photo of a handgun displayed in front of several beer cans and a bottle of alcohol with the caption, `It's sure happening."'

Rosario's TRO request said she was seeking the order "because I am afraid that with respondent's unstable behavior and alcohol dependency, respondent will hurt me or our children. I do not feel safe around respondent or having our children in his presence."

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San Diego police at the scene of a murder-suicide where two adults and three children were found dead inside a home on the 2100 block of Flintridge Drive in Paradise Hills on Nov. 16, 2019.

Call and text logs attached to the filing list dozens of phone calls and texts to Rosario's phone between Nov. 8 and Nov. 14.

In one Nov. 8 text message exchange, Valdivia stated that he was outside her home and knew that Rosario was alone inside because her sister was watching the children. He repeatedly asked her to answer the phone and let him come inside.

On Nov. 9, she asked him to "Leave me alone," to which he responded, "I'm not leaving you alone and you know that." She repeated her request and he responded, "I cant n wont."

On Nov. 13, he asked to come by the home and wrote, "You know im not going to ever leave you alone," then asked her to "give me a chance. I'll do anything I (promise). Anything baby. I really love you and need to be with you babe."

He also asked several times in the messages to see his children, though Rosario wrote that she had made attempts "to allow him to see our children, but respondent makes no effort. Respondent does not care about seeing our children, and instead harasses me to get back together with him."

Later she wrote, "he just is fixated on me being with someone else."

San Diego police Chief David Nisleit said Saturday that the shooter's wife had sought a restraining order against her husband around Nov. 1 after officers responded to the home to "preserve the peace" amid an argument about property.

She received a copy of the temporary restraining order she had obtained against her husband on Friday.

"It is still unclear if the restraining order had been legally served, but we do believe the male was aware of it," SDPD Lt. Matt Dobbs said. "It appears the male came to the residence in the morning and an altercation ensued. The male used his gun to shoot his wife and children, before turning the gun on himself."

An argument could be heard by 911 dispatchers when a call came in from the home around 6:40 a.m. Saturday. When police arrived, an officer peered through a back window and saw a child on the ground covered in blood.

A GoFundMe page has raised more than $25,000 as of Monday morning to aid the family with burial and medical costs.


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